Lady Tanner (Relationship Counselling)

Hello married people. Long post alert but please try to read it through. I stumbled into a playful conversation with a couple in church on Sunday who said they were considering leaving a Christian couples group due to our perceived 'vulgarity' especially in the area of sex and bedroom references. 😳😅 Of course, while I could tell they meant it playfully, I couldn't shake the feeling that many who silently observe in the group carry the same impression and would probably whisper in private conversations that "are you sure these people are born again?" To be honest, I personally cringed at times we have had to make some of these references but we have increasingly found that it is absolutely necessary, especially when we consider the pressing condition of many married relationships.  In 75%+ Christian marriages we have had to counsel and in reports reaching us from other counsellors in our church and many more from outside we have discovered that there is an epidem...

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When you excitedly made the vows those years ago, this is what you were signing up for..."a ti le po" meaning, we are stuck together. Let's use this coin. It has 2 different faces, designs characters, etc, but you cannot separate the 2 sides from each other. They are stuck. The only way to separate this coin, is to destroy it. That's what happens when we think we can go our separate ways, we destroy the union of 1. You must come to terms with the fact that you and your spouse are two different people, however, you have been joined to become an inseparable unit. ‭ "From then on, they are no longer two, but united as one. So what God unites let no one divide!” Matthew 19:6 TPT‬ It's because you think you're the one that joined you together that you think you can break up your marriage. God joined you together, honour Him by staying together. So, treat your spouse well. Treat your other side with love, care and acceptance. Make the best of your similarities ...

 The rate at which prices have been skyrocketing in Nigeria in the past few months....our source can be none other than God. God makes provision through man and how man manages the resources God gives to him is very crucial.  The husband has a primary responsibility to provide for the home, so while his income might not change in this period, the wife has to spend with knowledge and understanding. How can we make these better financial decisions at this time? - Both husband and wife should be totally transparent about the state of their finances. This way, the wife knows how much she can spend without putting the husband in debt - Create a budget for shopping and restrain yourself from going overboard by more than a maximum of 5/10%. We know sometimes you'd spend more than you planned but have limits please. - Look for alternatives to your regular items. E.g, if you usually buy an imported version of a product and the dollar rate is making it very pricey, look for a good Niger...

We either enjoy good things, or suffer bad things from the words of our mouth. If you want to enjoy your marriage, the produce of your heart and mouth regarding your spouse and marriage must be good, regardless of the circumstances. Like a rudder that steers a ship, keep your heart and mouth locked on the good and in time, your whole world will align to the confessions you have been making. Let's confess the lyrics of the song "The Blessing" over our spouses today. The Lord bless you and keep you Make His fine shine upon you Be gracious to you The Lord turn His, face towards you And give you peace Amen! May His favour, be upon you And a thousand generations And your family and your children And their children Amen! May His presence go before you And behind you, and beside you All around you, and within you He is with you In the morning In the evening In your coming And your going In your weeping And rejoicing He is for you Amen! A better society starts with better homes. ...

  We live in a world where we are quick to ascribe glory to ourselves. We paise ourselves when things are good and blame ourselves when things are bad. We forget that the fact that we are still breathing is because God CHOSE to give us life. We are who we are, we have what we have, because God has given them to us. We, however, have a responsibility to the giver. We will give an account of how we treated what He gave us. You have a wife or a husband because God gave you one. How do you treat him/her? Do you abuse the gift of God in your life everyday or do you praise the gift of God? We think the grass will be greener on another side because we think we chose the person by ourselves. God gave you your spouse to love and cherish, for better and for worse. To groom you to become better. To grow in the show of God's love. To become Christlike. When you find yourself struggling to treat the gift of God right, go to God to teach you how to make use of His gift to you. Be assured that Hi...