Dear wife, let him look forward to coming home

A home is a place of rest and peace. Our homes should be our no judgement zones.

After facing so much pressure from work, colleagues, traffic, bad weather, car trouble, and maybe seductresses/seducers, the last thing you want to open the door of your home to meet is trouble.

Some women wonder why their husbands would rather hangout with friends or stay out of the house till odd hours... Maybe, just maybe you're the reason... Maybe the heat you give him is too much. He can't do A right nor B well enough. You are always ready with a quick retort or a scornful expression.

A man's brain can only process so much pressure. You're to be his leisure. Don't chase him out with tension rather embrace him with pleasure.

The bible says "It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman." Proverbs 21:19 KJV. Interestingly, Solomon repeated this in Proverbs about 5 times. I guess his experience freaked him out.

Ladies, let's calm down, take deep breaths, pause, do some internal pep talk, smile, lovingly look our husbands in the eyes and say what we want to say with the respect and honour due to them. Let's pick up the slacks they leave behind, pamper them, bless them, nudge them, drop hints, pray for them and have good expectations of them. A mind that seeks or looks out for the good in people is a lighter mind, less burdened by anger and contempt.

The competition is stiff for your husband, do not nag him into the streets.

Love is always a choice...🤗

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