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You think your spouse to reality


You are a result of your mental projections;

Your spouse is a result of what you project at them;

Your children are results of your mental and verbal projections;

Your projections emanate from your thoughts;

Your thoughts emanate from what you believe.


If you believe that your husband is the best in the world, you'd think it and project it and soon he will act it out.

If you believe that your wife is your worst problem, you'd think it and project it and she will act it out.


What you believe about them is what you think and project to them and it is what they also become.


Why is this so? As a husband or wife, you are the closest modeller in the life of your spouse now they have left their parents. You are the closest, most consistent influence on their lives and results. What you see and like or dislike was partly made by you and its results good or bad will be borne by you.


So quit complaining and nagging and bellyaching and wishing you got someone better. You-make the one you got better. Don't force it. Confess it, believe it, declare it and work gently and kindly at it and soon you will have it...but it starts with believing it first.


If you believe your husband is the best in your heart, you'd treat him like that and you will focus on his good. It's not because the weaknesses won't be there, but like the Word says, keep your mind on the lovely things. As you keep at this and say this to him, he soon starts to model your praise because he likes to hear it from you and starts to improve continually to become a better version of himself - to himself, to you and to others. Cos as you lift him up, he feels worthy, honoured and spurred not to disappoint you. Do it subtly, not pretentiously. Really mean it when you say it.


When Jesus calls you worthy, even when you don't feel worthy, don't you look at yourself and say "if He thinks I'm worthy, then I should be" and then you start making efforts to be who He says you are.


"...Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise."

Philippians 4:8 NLT


Love is always a choice...🤗


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