Comparison is the thief of joy!

One of the fastest ways to be disgruntled in your relationship is to compare yours with others.

No two people or circumstances are the same, even twins have differences.

Yorubas say "a ki fi ago alago sare" meaning you don't run your race using someone else's time.

So they got married before you.... rejoice with them

They had children before you ... your time is coming

They bought their houses before yours... there's still time

They got the PR before you, even though you started your process before them... all things are working together for your good.

The moment you scroll IG or catch yourself thinking about what others have and you don't or how a certain spouse seems better than yours, or how certain children are high flyers... don't go down the road of self pity, complaints and ingratitude. Instead rejoice. Thank God for who you are, what He gave you and where He has placed you.

If you think adjustments need to be made, by all means make them, but not because you want to match up to someone but rather because you want to be all God has planned for you to be.

The bible says they that compare themselves with themselves are not wise...2 Cor 10:12.

Do not go down the foolish path the devil is throwing in your face. Rejoice, give thanks, face your lane, tend your garden and watch God bring out the best in you and your family.

Love is always a choice...🤗

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