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Sex- the only duty that shouldn't be outsourced


 Have you thought of the fact that sex is the only act that actually means you're married to your spouse?


The signed papers aren't the bond. Sex is the bond and proof. That's why they say a marriage can be annulled if it hasn't been consummated. 


Sex is the blood tying bond between you and your spouse and the only duty that no one else is to do for you.


You can get a cook, cleaner, accountant etc. You hire a housekeeper and the person can do all other duties, but the moment that duty crosses to the "other room", it is war.


So why will you treat sex as an optional duty?

Ladies and gentlemen, it is not. 


Cooking is an option

Cleaning is an option

Sex is not an option. 


You pledge your body to each other when you were making the marriage vows. The bible says a husband has no right over his body and vice versa.


The owner of your body is your spouse, once married, you have no right to hoard your body from them. 


Have sex with your spouse as often as possible. Do not outsource this duty as it causes the greatest hurt in marriages.




A better society starts with better homes. Let's build great marriages.


Love is always a choice...🤗


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